Passivity anyone?

I'm caught in a dilemma. I am, I might have mentioned before, a horrible journal/blog voyeur. I sometimes know more about what's going on with those I read than their actual friends do - I recently called a budding relationship from halfway around the world. That's not to say I don't realize there's a pretty stark contrast between journal personas and actual people sometimes, but anyway...

A friend of mine who is pretty outspoken in person, but even moreso online and I have something in common: We are prone to irrational anger as a defence mechanism. In fact, I think we just might be linked by mutual frustration (she uses the unequivocal term 'hatred' but I'm not prepared to go that far) with the same person.

I learned this from reading a recent entry of hers, and I'd like to respond...just to say how funny and ironic it is that I didn't realize her situation, however I'm not sure it's appropriate to do so because A) I've never commented on her journal, after about two years of reading and B) I'm not on her friends list and have been slipping into her private entries through another account.

It's a bit odd. Maybe it's because I'm worried that our conversations in the real world will be effected. But hell, maybe she already knows or assumes I've been getting the goods anyway. So I'm throwing this out into the ether and seeing if anything comes back. I figure she would have fewer qualms about commenting on my self-consciouness. Back in the physical world, I'll let her know the next time I see her just in case I have an over-inflated sense of how well-known (or read) my ramblings are.